Having Hard Conversations

Leadership isn’t just casting vision and celebrating wins—it also means stepping into hard conversations when necessary. Conflict, correction, and accountability are part of the job. Avoiding them doesn’t keep the peace—it just delays the problem and often makes it worse. Proverbs 27:6 says, “Wounds from a friend can be trusted, but an enemy multiplies kisses.” (NIV)

​Confront with Care and Clarity
Unaddressed issues grow. Silence can be mistaken for approval. Leaders who care enough to confront show that they value growth, truth, and the relationship. Hard conversations—when done with humility and clarity—can actually deepen trust rather than damage it.

It’s not just what you say, but when and how you say it. Scripture calls us to speak the truth in love (Ephesians 4:15). That means we don’t bulldoze people with bluntness, nor do we sugarcoat truth to avoid discomfort. The right words, at the right time, in the right spirit, can bring life and clarity.

• Pray first – Ask God to guide your words and your heart.
• Pick the right moment – Don’t have hard talks when emotions are high or distractions are many.
• Stick to facts, not assumptions – Focus on behavior and impact, not on personal attacks.

Lead the Way in Truth and Love
Jesus wasn’t afraid to have hard conversations—but He always did so with the person’s best interest in mind. Whether it was correcting Peter, challenging the Pharisees, or calling out the rich young ruler, Jesus spoke with truth and love. As leaders, we are called to do the same.

Hard conversations become easier when they’re part of your culture. When people know feedback is normal, healthy, and rooted in love, they won’t fear it—they’ll welcome it. As a leader, go first. Model honesty, grace, and a commitment to helping others grow.