Leading With Emotional Intelligence

Some of the best leaders I’ve worked with weren’t necessarily the smartest people in the room—but they were the most emotionally aware. Emotional intelligence (EQ) is what helps you lead people with empathy, understand team dynamics, and respond to challenges with wisdom instead of impulse.

EQ > IQ
You can have all the knowledge in the world, but if you don’t know how to read the room, respond with grace, or handle conflict without blowing up, your influence is limited. Emotional intelligence is a game-changer because it helps you connect with people where they are—not just where you want them to be.

As Proverbs 15:1 reminds us, “A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.” The way we respond emotionally as leaders often shapes the emotional climate of our entire team.

Jesus Modeled Emotional Awareness
Jesus was perfectly emotionally intelligent. He wept at Lazarus’ tomb (John 11:35), showed compassion to the crowds (Matthew 9:36), flipped tables in righteous anger (Matthew 21:12), and recognized when His disciples needed rest (Mark 6:31). He was fully present in every moment and responded appropriately—not reactively.

If we want to lead like Jesus, we need to grow in how we respond, relate, and reflect.

Grow Your EQ

• Self-Awareness – Pay attention to how your emotions affect your tone, words, and decisions.
• Empathy – Really listen to what your team is saying (and not saying).
• Self-Regulation – Slow down before you respond, especially in conflict.
• Social Skills – Learn how to navigate difficult conversations and build rapport.

None of this happens by accident. Emotional intelligence is a discipline, and leaders who grow in it lead with greater impact.

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Where Do You Need to Grow?

• Do you tend to react or respond?
• Do people feel safe being honest with you?
• Are you aware of how your emotions affect others?

Take inventory this week. The more emotionally aware we are, the more effectively we reflect Christ in how we lead.