The Power of Self-Leadership

Leading Yourself First
Leadership isn’t about barking orders from the sidelines. It starts with self-discipline, setting the example, and proving to yourself and others that you can do the work before expecting it from them. One of the quickest ways to lose credibility as a leader is to adopt a “Do as I say, not as I do” mentality. True leadership begins with leading yourself well—physically, mentally, and ethically.

As part of my own self-leadership journey, some accountability partners and I have begun reading through the Bible in a Year. I’ve often encouraged others to be in the Word daily, and this commitment helps me practice the same spiritual discipline while adding a layer of accountability.

Setting the Standard
I’ve been a martial artist my whole life, and one of the core principles of our Kenpo system is that we never ask a lower belt to do something we aren’t willing to do ourselves. That requires personal discipline and a commitment to self-leadership. When a white or yellow belt struggled with conditioning, I’d drop and do 100 push-ups right alongside them. Not only did it prove I wouldn’t ask them to do anything I couldn’t do, but it also helped them realize they were capable of more than they believed. When they saw me doing it, they found the strength to push through.

A similar thing happened when I was coaching 8th grade football. During conditioning, I called out the team for sandbagging—holding back instead of pushing themselves. One player, feeling bold, shot back, “I don’t see you running, Coach!” Instead of just reinforcing authority, I led by example. I told the team that he and I would race. If he won, conditioning was over for the day. If I won, they were running wind sprints. Let’s just say those wind sprints happened—and I believe they made us better as a team. That year, we took first place, not just because of talent, but because of discipline and a leadership mindset that started with me.

The Biblical Model of Self-Leadership
People follow leaders who are willing to put in the work alongside them. Paul wrote in 1 Corinthians 11:1, “Follow my example, as I follow the example of Christ” (NIV). That’s the model—leading by doing. Jesus didn’t just tell His disciples what to do; He lived it out in front of them. He withdrew for prayer, fasted, and showed discipline in every aspect of His life. If we want to lead others well, we have to lead ourselves first.

My commitment to daily Bible reading is another example of this. If I encourage others to be in the Word, I need to be doing it myself. Engaging with Scripture consistently strengthens my leadership and ensures that my guidance is rooted in truth.

Challenge: Master Yourself Before Leading Others
As leaders, whether in ministry, business, or life, self-leadership is the foundation for everything else. Our people shouldn’t just hear what we expect; they should see it in how we live. When you hold yourself to the same standards you expect from others, your leadership becomes authentic and powerful. So the next time you set expectations, ask yourself—am I leading myself first in the same way I expect others to follow?